Skip to content

Valia Sakellariadi

My good-man, how can I establish “Us” if I do not win the “Me’?

Let’s get it from the start, but this time I will try to keep it here and now. Clearly, we are all concerned with great metaphysical ideas, but maybe we should look at things in the eyes! We should stop with the nonsense that leads us to dead ends.

I have spoken with many of those who talk about “we” and “love thy neighbor,” and unfortunately, while they are right, they keep a purely utopian approach to the subject.

I will try to be more explicit.

Let’s check it from a math point of view and focus on the idea of the whole. The total is a collection of unique objects. The definition is not mine. If we now draw a circle, for example, and say that this is a group, it does not stand unless we define some things or ideas in it. For instance: If we put colored dots on it, then the circle is a group of colored dots. The family is a group, a class with students is a group, etc.

The famous “we,” my dear friends, whether you like it or not, is also a TOTAL! It consists of a collection of unique objects such as those that represent us. If WE ARE ZERO’S, then, your fantastic total of WE is nonsense because it’s just EMPTY!

Totals, however, have a problem. Their properties, for which we recognize them, are the sum of the properties of their individual parts. A group of white-colored balloons includes a single color, so no big deal! But when the balloons have many colors, then the ensemble acquires an enviable diversity.

Our first obligation, therefore, in our effort to gradually form the WE, is for us to be able to create distinct EGOs that can fit into the predetermined group. So simple. You think it is self-evident; it is not! You have to explain it!

Before I go any further, however, let us also have a look at the other partner of my present post, love. No, I will not indulge you and let it be. The command is clear: Love each other. What is though the true meaning of this second part of this great saying?

This specific phrase in the New Testament (John 13: 34, 35), which we have heard so many times from so many interpreters, is the following: ”A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples if you love one another.”

So what he said is that the pupils should have love and unity between them. The truth hidden behind is that “Love Thy Neighbors” is not a generalized expression, is not an announcement to a multitude of believers, is not a counsel neither a lesson for all mankind. It is a proposal that had specific recipients, and these were his twelve disciples. Jesus couldn’t have given an empty command.

What do we have here? A “We” without content and a “Love” that by humanity’s nature cannot be universal.

Are these concepts wrong? No, I’m not saying that. What I’m saying is that they belong to the impossible. To make it possible, we, as mankind, have to take many steps to achieve it.

The first thing we have to do is learn to love ourselves. “Love your neighbor as yourself” is a wise order. If we do not love ourselves, how is it possible to love our neighbor? Not the poor one whose existence we ignore on the other side of the world, but our neighbor. This poor guy needs our respect, but we will discuss this some other time.

The act, though, that concerns us is magical. It encompasses two procedures. The first step is to get to know ourselves. Why do we do what we do? The second is to forgive ourselves after we establish that we shall not repeat the same mistakes. The word “magic” is written absolutely consciously. If we operate in the way I just described, we will begin to feel the multiplicity of our existence. And you know what will happen then? The Ego will show up and will take into our symbiotic existence the place that suits it. Not the ego of selfishness but the Ego of personality. And whether we like it or not, this Ego is what makes us separate entities that whenever we join the wholeness of “We,” we can give substance to it.

People without personality and with their sense of existence on zero level are not suitable even for raw material for the upcoming generations. Commonly speaking, they are only ideal for fracking!

A little tip: Ignore existentially all those who treat you unacceptable.

Those who stand next to you or even are your buddies,  friends, or girlfriends, or even your children. Ignore them. You will be there for them, I’m not telling you to abandon them if you can not. But ignore them. This is another act of magic. If you do so, they can not hurt you. Their arrows will hit themselves because I want you to know that when an arrow is launched from a bow, one thing is for sure, it will find a target. And if you manage to protect yourself by not coexisting at the same level, then the arrow will return to the one who launched it. So simple. And the damage will be done to him. Again so simple!